Always annoyed, always pointed out, always angry boss.

Always annoyed, always pointed out, always angry boss.

A boss who is always angry, irritated, and intelligent is a psychological stressful entity for many office workers. Even though it's not your fault, if you get a constant negative response, your self-esteem will be reduced and you will lose motivation for work. The way to deal with these bosses is not just "endure," but rather a strategy.

Here is a realistic approach that can change things little by little:

1. Do not react emotionally – break the link between 'attack → defense'

Whenever you are annoyed and point out, if you reflexively defend or feel bad, the boss feels that you can 'control' the reaction. Reduce emotional responses, manage facial expressions, and respond calmly. Example:

I'll check what you said and improve it.

Please conclude with a short and neat answer.

2. Pick and listen to 'points' from the boss's words.

Emotional words are mixed with unnecessary attacks. Filter out the swear words, sarcasm, and unpleasant speech, and focus only on "What do you want?"

Example:

What is this, do it again! → “You felt that the results were insufficient. I'll have to ask you in which direction to change it.

3. Recurring comments are organized into notes and 'preemptive response'

In fact, 'self-control' is often more important than change or growth for bosses who repeat comments. In that case, keep a thorough record and checklist the same mistakes or forms in advance so that they are not pointed out. And before I saw it, a word:

This is how you reflected what you said last time.

→ It becomes a barrier to block the point.

4. Don't get caught up in personal emotions

The boss's attitude may not be towards your ‘individual’. There may have been a number of factors that might have been involved, including the person's personality, anxiety, and organizational pressure. We need to keep your emotions away from your boss so that you don't become an emotional outlet.

After work, practice organizing your thoughts and cutting them off. It is also good to write them on paper and throw them away.

5. Share with a reliable third party (colleagues, seniors, personnel team)

If it's too much, don't handle it alone. Write down the 'fact-oriented' rather than the emotion, and ask for advice from a trusted colleague.

“There was this word and action on the 00th, which affected me.”

It will be a material that can be officially raised if necessary later.

6. Turnover or department transfer is also one of the strategies.

In reality, there are people who do not change no matter how hard they try. It’s not a ‘duty’ to hold out. It is more important than how well you hold out, but how healthy you find an environment to work.

If changing jobs is burdensome, consider moving to an in-house department or taking a vacation first. The mind of "starting preparation, not leaving right away," gives you the power to endure.

The wisdom of working life, the way to grow beyond an incompetent boss.

The wisdom of working life, the way to grow beyond an incompetent boss.

Many office workers experience various experiences by meeting competent and incompetent bosses. The difficulties experienced by an incompetent boss, in particular, can significantly impact personal growth and work life in general, beyond simply reducing work efficiency. The criteria for evaluating the competence of a boss may vary, but the important thing is how to cope with such situations and develop yourself. Meeting an incompetent boss is not only considered a crisis, but rather a turning point in strengthening one's capabilities and seeking better opportunities.

Incompetent boss, how to deal with it

The types of bosses you encounter at work are truly diverse. Some bosses lead the team with excellent abilities and help the members grow, while others do not, which can add to the confusion in their work. It is by no means easy to work with a boss who considers himself competent but actually goes wrong or reduces the efficiency of the entire organization due to lack of communication.

In this situation, the important thing is to develop a smart strategy rather than an emotional response to the boss. Complainting or expressing dissatisfaction with an incompetent boss can be detrimental to oneself. Instead, it is necessary to objectively analyze the situation and focus on developing one's own competencies.

Sometimes, flattering your boss seems to work to your advantage. Here, 'flattery' can mean the ability to gain trust by accurately identifying and solving the needs of the boss, beyond simply humiliating. Understanding what your boss values and how he prefers to communicate and acting accordingly can help reduce unnecessary friction and build his position.

Of course, there are times when you run into difficulties while acting only by trusting your skills. Excellent people are always ready to leave in search of better opportunities, so they are sometimes considered "unlucky" within the organization. But what is clear is that excellence is the most powerful weapon that can protect yourself and open up new paths under any circumstances.

Wise choice and preparation

When a boss who lacks ability rises to a high position, his subordinates will have a great deal of trouble. Even if you report, you may not be given a proper solution, but rather experience the wrong instructions that make things more complicated. These bosses often believe that only their judgments are correct and tend to ignore the opinions around them. Working with a boss who seems unable to communicate can be a formidable mental and physical strain.

If you are in this situation, you need a strategic approach rather than running away recklessly. First of all, it is important to take the lead in the work by maximizing one's capabilities to fill the gaps of one's boss. This may seem like a replacement for your boss in the short term, but in the long term, it can be an opportunity to strengthen your skills and further prove your worth.

At the same time, preparing for a job change based on the skills accumulated through these efforts is also a realistic alternative. An incompetent boss often stays there for longer than expected, so it's much more efficient to move to a better environment for himself than to try to change him. If you have enough skills, the process of finding new opportunities will be easier. If you still think you are not good enough, it is advisable to learn what you can learn from your current position as much as possible, focus on developing your own abilities, and then consider changing jobs.

In conclusion, meeting an incompetent boss can be painful, but at the same time, it can be an opportunity to look back and develop oneself. It is important to increase one's value with cool-headed judgment and consistent effort, and to make wise choices for a better future.

Additional information

How to deal with each type of boss.

The types of bosses in the workplace vary widely. Rather than simply dividing them into 'competence' and 'incompetence', it is effective to understand their behavioral characteristics and communication methods and find appropriate coping methods. For example, for micro managers (supervisors who interfere with details) it is important to build trust through clear reporting and sharing progress. On the other hand, neglectful bosses need to take the lead in their work and actively ask for feedback. Identifying bosses' tendencies and developing appropriate strategies can help reduce unnecessary conflicts and increase work efficiency.

The Importance of Workplace Relationships

In work life, you can't succeed simply by your work skills. Amicable relationships with superiors, colleagues, and subordinates have a significant impact not only on work performance but also on individual job satisfaction. Sometimes networking skills are more important than skills. This means that we go beyond just building friendships, and we help each other, exchange information, and create synergy. Active communication and cooperation can increase work life satisfaction and further positively affect career development.

Emotional management and stress relief

The stress caused by an incompetent boss can be more severe than you think. These stresses not only affect the decline in work efficiency but also adversely affect mental and physical health. Therefore, it is important to find your own effective emotional management and stress relief methods. Efforts are needed to relieve stress and maintain a positive mind through various methods such as regular exercise, hobbies, sufficient rest, and conversations with trusted people.

Living as a department head: between horizontal and vertical, records of struggles;

Living as a department head: between horizontal and vertical, records of struggles;

I deeply sympathize with your story of working as a department head and seeing all kinds of things. The ideal of a horizontal structure, the numerous gaps encountered in reality, and the anguish and anguish experienced in the meantime, can be felt intact. As the saying goes, "I can see that it is still because it is still." It can be seen that the years of silence have created the position of department head, but the weight is never light.

The youngest members of the new generation look distinctly different from before. They struggle with the natural process of running errands and acquiring work, and sometimes they protest, saying, "Why are you ordering when you are the same employee?" This is enough to cause anger beyond embarrassment for managers who are accustomed to vertical order.

But behind their complaints may lie unfamiliar work, a flurry of responsibility, and an unappreciated frustration. Especially for older youngest members, it is difficult to show as fast learning skills as the younger generation, so you can have a harder time.

In this situation, the role of the department head becomes more important. Beyond simply dressing up and directing tasks, delicate coordination is required considering the capabilities and circumstances of each employee. When the youngest stubbornly refuses to work, the way he passes it on to the senior in a hurry becomes another seed of conflict. Senior employees have no choice but to complain, saying, "That avoids work," and the department head may feel responsible.

The department head also suffers from this dilemma. Because of the urgent need to handle the work right now, we rely on a competent senior, but this can eventually prevent the youngest from growing and lead to a decline in the capacity of the entire organization. We need a firm message that "our company does not need anyone who avoids work," but before that, it will be the true role of the department head to identify why the youngest is struggling with the work and what is lacking and lead them to grow.

Of course, not all the youngest members avoid without the will to learn. Sometimes you may be tired of overwork and complain of difficulties. Therefore, the department head should objectively assess the workload and provide the necessary support before dismissing the difficulties of the youngest as simply personal complaints.

The biggest problem is the organizational culture, where people who are good at flattering are promoted rather than being able to. This is a great disappointment for employees who diligently work on their work, and it results in their leaving the company. For the long-term growth of a company, a personnel system that selects and grows talented people with practical skills, rather than apparent intimacy or flattery, is essential.

In conclusion, the head of the department should understand the trend of the times of horizontal structure, but establish basic order and responsibility for the efficient operation of the organization. While we cannot impose unconditional obedience on the youngest, we must clearly recognize the importance of work and the need for cooperation, and provide appropriate education and opportunities for growth. At the same time, it is necessary to implement fair work division and evaluation through objective judgment without being buried in individual emotional appeals.

The key point is that rather than the cynical view of "not rewriting people," the department head should focus all his capabilities on creating a healthy organizational culture where team members with different personalities can respect, cooperate, and create synergy. Sometimes patiently waiting, sometimes resolutely presenting principles, and sometimes warm encouragement and advice-saving leadership will be the answer to finding a balance between ideal horizontal organization and realistic work efficiency. The department head's shoulders are heavy, but we must not forget that leadership is an important key to the future of the organization.

To a friend who is about to retire.

 

To a friend who is about to retire.

Some of my friends are already retired because they are too old.

Some friends have months left and some have about a year left.

Retirement is about to take place.

It's not a glorious new start.

I feel like I'm just being unemployed.

This is because they are not ready for old age, so they cannot end their lives by playing and eating.

If you work, there is always a crisis of unemployment, and many people will have experienced it a few times.

I think it's because my job is not right.

Just as a couple doesn't get along and get divorced in their lives, it's natural to resign if the job and I don't get along. However, retirement was divorced and fired from work. He tried regardless of his will, but he could not hold out.

Retirement is also forced out of work.

So to get a job after retirement.

The elderly try,

I only realize again that nothing is easy.

Retirement is the jobless.

I had to watch my father retire from his job. I couldn't even go to retirement age because I worked for a large company. He made and demoted the losers with clever techniques to voluntarily resign in the middle. Eventually, he resigned after years of endurance.

So he always told me, my son, not to find a job, but to do business. Then I still think that I shouldn't have sent him to college these days.

I felt like I knew in my life that a job is not the way to succeed. He said that making a lot of money is the best in capitalist society.

They argue that in order to make a lot of money, they have to do their own business without retirement age. However, it seemed that the problem was that the success rate of the project was less than 3% for three years.

Eventually, I started my career late through that process. And in a formidable work life, I have worked for a nonprofit organization that suits my aptitude for a small wage. And I am about to retire.

To my son who graduated from college, I tell him that there are many jobs, so it is the difference between whether I can do it or not. Because you are young, it's okay to fail. You can start over.

I don't know if you'll hear that your older dad has nowhere to go.

That's how life ends.

Netflix dramas are popular these days.

It is a life story set in Jeju Island, and sometimes it is good, but it is pathetic to tell the story of a house where life is not enough. It is a drama that overcomes the crisis with the help of many people, hurts because of children, and depicts a woman's life well.

Watching this drama next to her, my wife keeps crying. As a man, I can't cry. I tend to cry well after watching dramas. Because I think it's because men take it for granted that it's hard.

못된 직원

사람은 참 못된 동물이다. 착한 사람은 하나도 없다. 그런데 자꾸 기대하고 착각을 한다. 

 착한 사람이 있을 것이라고 스스로 세뇌하기도 한다. 

왜냐하면 이기적인 나쁜놈만 있다고 생각하면 못 살것 같기 때문이다.

지옥같은 세상에 살고 싶지 않기 때문이다 오직 정글의 법칙만 있다면 그게 대자연의 법칙이라해도 그런 세상을 원하지 않기 때문이다.

착한세상

직장생활을 하다보면 나쁜놈들이 너무 많은 것 아냐하고 한탄을 하게 된다. 이간질에 남 헌담질 아주 악마가 따로없다. 비아냥 거리질 않나 책임 회피를 하질 않나 비열한 짓은 기본이고 거짓말도 잘한다. 이렇게 판단하는 나도 누군가에게는 못된 놈일게 분명하다.

하지만 그럼에도불구하고 우린 감동적인 사람들을 만난다. 바로 의인이다 자기 목숨을 잃으면서까지 남을 돕는 사람부터 어제 뉴스 처럼 잃어버린 수술비를 찾아주기 위해 하루종일 쓰레기를 파혜져서 결국 상당히 많은 돈을 찾아준 댓가없이 호의를 베푸는 사람들에게서다.

희망은 이런사람들 때문에 생기는 것이고 삶을 다시 설 용기를 얻기도 한다.

그래 아주 희망이 없는 것은 아니지 하면서 말이다.

로또담첨 처럼 만나지 못할지라도 희망은 우리를 살게 한다. 아주 실낱같은 희망이라도 말이다.